Our grandson is in year 5 at school. Most of the children in his class are obsessed with next September’s 11-plus exam. He says his friends all have tutors, and naturally he wants one, too. His parents don’t approve of the 11-plus; they know he is very bright, and should do well in the exam – but, of course, anyone can have a bad day. Also, there is the obvious possibility that other children will get a sufficient advantage from tutoring that they overtake him and take up all the grammar school places, thus relegating him to one of the local non-grammar schools. We are well able to pay for tutoring, which is quite a substantial business in the area. Should we interfere, and push for him to have a tutor?
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