My boyfriend keeps criticising my appearance – I’m now extremely insecure

My boyfriend of three years has been dropping comments here and there about girls he used to date. According to him, all of them had rocking abs and bodies; his most recent ex was “physically out of this world, and all my friends were in awe of her”. I’m not really sure what to think of this. I’ve seen this girl a few times and I think she’s pretty but not “physically out of this world”. He points out that I have small eyes (but his eyes are really small) and other things about my physical appearance that make me wonder why he is with me in the first place. Before dating him, I had a few insecurities like any other girl, but now I feel extremely insecure and not worth enough.

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